Please remember that moderators are held to higher standards than other players, so we do need to be careful what we say in chats as well as what we do.
We must not be overly picky, this is a game after all and the object is to have fun. That said, obviously the rules need to be followed to keep this a fun place, but please do remember that these are not your kids, and you are not their mom. They don't have to respect you or like you. They do have to follow the rules, but please remember to be patient and as lenient as possible.
Some are young kids, some are old kids ;) All are kids. :) They are here to have fun. So if they want to chat ok, or whatever as long as it's ok for all ages. They may say they have a boyfriend/girlfriend, as long as it doesn't go into dating. We don't allow dating on the game or date speak. They may say many, many things but as long as it's not violent, inappropriate, graphic... it's ok.
I realize sometimes it's difficult to figure out where the line should be. Just think about the content...it ok for age 6/8? Just saying "my dog bit me" is fine. If they get graphic with it, then it should go to private chat. If they say they "I don't bite." Ok, yay! they are non violent. *laughing out loud!*
If they say for example in a profile "I hate my brother" ok fine as long as they don't name him. *laughing out loud!* If they give the name then it needs to be changed. If they say they will or want to hurt the brother then it needs to go as that is a threat.
Horse names, if it's not a threat it's probably ok. Mostly it's how it's worded. Assassin is fine, I'm an Assassin isn't. Hurt is ok, Hurt You isn't. Knife is ok, Cuts with a knife isn't. That type of thing. :)
Also please don't stretch yourselves too thin. Remember it's better to be a good moderator on one or two servers than not really there on several servers. That said, when the servers are pretty quiet one can indeed to several without a problem, but then again if 2 or more erupt at the same time = problem. When a mod is on and doesn't do anything, then another mod comes on and does something, this can trigger anger by the players. As they think the first mod didn't do anything because it's ok.
So if you can do multiple servers ok, just please be careful and don't over reach yourself. Try to get some play time in there too! :)
Then I can explain further. *laughing out loud!* :) I have trouble catching people on any more as my time is in and out still. :S
Great reminders DP :) I think a few of us DO try to treat these kids as if they are our own...I do ocassionally, as some of them HAVE chatted with me over pretty personal issues (loss of a loved one, low self esteem...etc) I NEVER push them to talk but find it hard to NOT have an open ear or a few words of encouragements or advice. I hope I am not over stepping any boundaries in doing so. I understand this is a place ofr them to come and have fun, However, I think some of them appreciate a kind word or just someone who is willing to listen. For the most part we have a great group of players :)
Once again, Just my two cents in the can (clink, clink) :)
So it's kind of a shock when we do get a player who behaves the same age that they likely are. That's where patience is DEFINITELY a virtue. Most of our players are intelligent and well-spoken beyond their years, but we do have some that are not, and it's very easy to lose patience with those because they aren't acting the way we may be accustomed to.